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The following article was prompted by an we received here at Marriage Missions. It concerns age gap —should it matter? We have edited it and changed the name to protect the identity of this writer. I have an issue on my mind that bothers me about marriages. I have found lately that couples tend to use the differences in ages as a barrier to keep them apart. This is looking into the flesh, rather than what God has planned for them together. Our marriages are supposed to fulfill the purposes God has for us together.

I believe that God chooses us as human beings put together to fulfill His purposes. I really look forward to hearing about this from you. There are many people that could benefit from reading about this aspect of marriage especially when choosing a partner. You make several excellent points in your letter about the barrier that age differences cause. It can emotionally separate married couples more than it looks like it should from a spiritual standpoint. But unfortunately, we live in a world where divorce is becoming a common way for couples to resolve differences.

For that reason we have to be all the more cautious when entering into marriage. But later on in life when the couple gets progressively older it becomes more of a problem. That is because the older spouse eventually gets into health and energy issues that the younger spouse finds too troublesome to deal with in their own stage in life. And in all fairness though, it really can be a problem. I look at the energy and desire that our younger sons have to do certain things.

If I had a younger spouse or my husband had a younger spouse this would have to be dealt with. And it would definitely cause its share of problems. Years ago when Biblical commitment in Christian dating age difference was more steadfast, this was something that couples would deal with and not allow to separate them. They need to look very prayerfully at the reality of what the upcoming years could most likely bring to challenge their love and commitment. I have seen a few good marriages where the large age gap worked out fine.

They have very good marriages. That goes for ALL marriage, but especially for marriages in this type of situation. Love can be very romantic to be involved in before marrying. They may have done those things earlier in their life together, but their progressing age may change that.

When you grow old together, being close to the same age at each stage, it can be somewhat easier to take. But when a 25 year old marries a 45 year old, the gap physically and emotionally grows wider with each passing year. To see them nodding off to sleep in the next chair when you want to go off socializing together can happen to even younger couples.

But it can be even more of a reality as our ages progress. Of course, there are always exceptions to this. Some 70 year olds lead more vigorous lives than some 30 year olds. That would be the honorable thing to do. It also talks of a king who is about to go out to war. Marriage can be put into the same context. If not, the honorable thing to do would be to back away before the marriage —not afterward. This is not about you. I hope my answer to you will give you some kind of insight into this type of situation. I wish I could paint a different picture of this situation.

But this is the way that I see it from a marriage education standpoint —even as a Bible-living Christian. Cindy Wright of Marriage Missions International wrote this article. Since writing this original article it has been pointed out to us that some marriages with large age gaps DO work out well.

And that is a great point that I should have stated stronger originally. It would not give God the elbow-room to work miracles in situations He has ordained to work this way. And we definitely serve a miracle-working God! But rather, we want those who are considering entering into this type of marriage to be prepared for the possible problems that could await them.

A wrong decision could bring devastating. Thoughts of marrying someone can be very romantic. Or we need to stop from proceeding any further if that would be best. We hope the above article has done that for you. For additional information, below are links to articles that may help you in the prayerful decision-making process. Please click onto the links below to read:. Tagged: differencesmarrying youngplanning to marryyouth marrying. Filed under: Preparing for Marriage. This is his first marriage and he has no children. I have three grown daughters and we have 8 grandchildren.

His culture is entirely different than mine. Then, their conversation is customized to fit the age of the person being spoken to. His libido is lower than mine. We love to work out together, go mountain climbing, play board games. He wears the same clothes day after day and I love clothes and fashion. Live each day as it comes, love unconditionally and God will work out the details.

It should be left to God and no human should judge or interfere with his plan. If He wishes it to be, so it shall be. Age gap or not, if He places them together in marriage it is His will. I have been dating a younger lady and because of our religious backgrounds we have not had any sexual relations. We believe that is saved for marriage. But I fear the age gap. I am 58 she is 24 and wants a family. I do good just to feed the dog! Will it work? The younger guys will be looking good to her. I married a man 12 years older than me. We have been married for 7 years now. I am 34 and he is We are both Christians.

He is very devoted to God and has way better faith than I Christian dating age difference. We have had many difficulties in our marriage, even at the beginning of our marriage. Now that I think about it, I was definitely not ready to be married.

I was not mature enough and not responsible enough. I way overestimated myself. My mom at the time was supportive and said that age is just a and I would crazy not to marry him… Now my mom is not alive anymore. My parents had an unhappy marriage, though they only differed one month in age.

My dad lacks empathy and my mom always sacrificed. Though she certainly had her mistakes. I married my husband, because he is very responsible and has good faith in God. I feel constantly miserable and ashamed. He did made many sacrifices and I also made sacrifices. I wonder whether we should have children. He will be a bit older when we have children and if God wants… I feel confused and constantly emotional about my marriage. Jeanine, You are living out the testimony of what this article is stating.

The age gap DOES matter not always, but very, very often. Let that be a warning to those that read this. I wish there was a re-do button that we can push and everything goes back to the way it was before we did something and we could Christian dating age difference make a different choice. We need to face that fact. And another fact is that there are different consequences for every decision we make when we come to a crossro in our life. Will we do this or that? And what could happen to, not only us, but to others and to our testimony as a follower of Christ when we make those decisions?

But you went with your heart the last time. The fact is that you DID marry your husband. No one put a gun to your head making you take those vows. In your confusion, you are miserable enough. I wrote an article a of years ago that I encourage you to prayerfully read. Go figure? Above all of that, the biggest reason I would never tell you to leave Christian dating age difference marriage is because of the Lord.

What would Jesus do? Could you imagine Him breaking up His visual picture of His love for the church to pursue His own happiness at the expense of the happiness of others? And what does this say about your character? Is it okay to make sacred vows and abandon them for the pursuit of seeking happiness? Jeanine, truly, this is a terrible place to be. I know this is possible. Ask Him to lift your head as you look to Him for your daily joy. Look for ways that God would have you live out your vows so you are in the center of His will.

If your husband loves God and you love God… all things are possible! Thank you for this site. It has been very enlightening and very thought provoking. I appreciate that God is the center of this conversation, knowledge, and commitment. We appreciate your supportive words. They mean a lot to us to know that God is being glorified in what we do. God bless! Many Thanks, A Concerned Reader Dear Concerned: You make several excellent points in your letter about the barrier that age differences cause.

The Problem And in all fairness though, it really can be a problem.

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