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I suppose you could debate the two, who is who and what is what, but if you really think about the differencethe two are only similar in a small aspect of the lifestyle. I will also cover the difference between a slave, submissive and a bottom. All three are very different and all three have different needs. The title if we were giving one is mostly giving to those who are highly recognized within the community. I do believe that the Master and Slave is wired much different than lets say a Dominant and his submissive. I am not saying one is better than the other, or one has an advantage over the other, our lifestyle are just different.
The Dominant and Submissive. The Submissiveonly submits when they choose, the play sessions are talked over before play, The Submissive will say what is allowed and what is not. The submissive will follow some rules but usually in the bedroom only. Once out of the bedroom there is still a Dominance and submissive feeling but not as noticeable as it was during play. The slave gets pleasure from serving their owner, be it helping with the shower, undressingcooking, cleaning, and yes sexually.
Sex between Master and Slave the Slave is more concerned with their owner receiving pleasure than their self, knowing their Master is pleased, is what brings on the feelings they are seeking. Last night I logged onto FaceBook and I started chatting with another Dominant who also has a blog on wordpress. Franco Bolli. We were talking about the Holidays and he brought this subject up to me, he said. For me there is a difference between a Master and a Dom, like there is a fundamental difference between a slave and a sub.
Yes he is correct, but those of you who are submissive and new to the lifestyle you really do not have a clue, or maybe you do but your afraid to speak up. You the submissive has the right to submit on your terms, when and where, and how. You have the right to follow what rules you want.
The word Dominant in the lifestyle is relatively new,or calling someone their Dominant is relatively new going back some 15 years or so, when the pansexual revelation came about. When BDSM started breaking off into separate groups. The Bottom will dictate the entire scenethe Bottom will instruct the topwhat they can do and what they cannot do, right down to how many times they can be spanked with a belt or flogger.
The Bottom can refuse to do certain sex acts or bondage. Again it is not that anyone is better than the other our lives are just very different.
It is what puts you the submissive in that frame of mind. Remember the difference between a Slave and a Submissive. Many who are Submissive do not understand how a Slave could live such a life, While a Slave cannot understand how one could only submit at their will. Arianna does not understand those who are submissive, but she respects them. She does not understand how a submissive could talk back to their Dominant, or even argue with them.
Arianna knows there would be great consequences if she were to question me, but this is the relationship we have. Remember the above is just my opinion and nothing more. I have included an article that was written some several years ago That I would like to share, and it speaks about the same subject. She even wears it to work without question.
A Submissive will determine when and where she will wear her collar, if she wears one at all. One of the best sites out there for information more so those who are new to the lifestyle is Bestslavetraining. There is a ton of information it will take you a week to read everything.
It will also give you the submissive or slave some ideas on how your Dominant or Master should be. Read you will truly enjoy. The slave also goes through what some would call a Behavior Modification process, this happens during training. The way the slave talks, walks, how they act in public, around their owners friends, and yes even sex. What really got me thinking was what Franco Bolli had said to me about how a Dominant was different than a Master in his eyes or thoughts. So here is the Article have fun reading maybe it was explained a little better and more detail than I was able to.
I love this position. To be thrilled at the opportunity to provide useful service, aroused by a pleased nod, and satisfied by the proverbial job well done is the mark of a slave. Most of us at least part of the timewant the thrill of leather, the arousal and satisfaction provided by the role, and would be less than satisfied with simply service. So, we modify the definition a bit. A popular debate takes place over the difference between a submissive and a bottom meaning the noun. I think this one is solved fairly easily. A submissive is a bottom who submits to the will of the Dominant in a scene, within the pre-negotiated limits they agree upon.
She does not direct the scene in any way and it is his choice which of those negotiated items he will incorporate into any particular scene. By contrast, a bottom often negotiates precisely what will happen in a particular scene, down to how many strokes with a particular toy.
She does not submit her will to that of the Dominant or Top, and there is no Domm seeking female subdomme switch date japanese women near Springfield of power… simply a planned scene. I often tell those I mentor that you can picture it on a scale of 1 to We fall all along the scale, rather than at one end or the other. This is what makes labeling impossible. There is no right or wrong way to bottom… everyone should find the place that gives them the most satisfaction.
The Top in a scene is the person giving the sensation or pain. Again, we fall all along the scale… there is no right or wrong way to top someone.
Now we come to the most difficult: Master and Dominant. Obviously all Masters are Dominants, but certainly all Doms are not Masters! At least not in the generally accepted use of the term, which is someone who owns a slave and controls her life completely.
The community itself reserves the right to bestow this title and does so sparingly. Whether someone likes a lot of pain or none at all; total surrender or neatly negotiated play; absolute control or a part time play experience… we all have a right to pursue our fantasies and desires, and deserve better than to be labeled by the very people who should understand the most clearly how diversified we all are.
You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2. You can leave a responseor trackback from your own site. Hehehe I love when Daddy becomes my Daddy and when He becomes my Dom lol they are both sooooooo Hot and very different. While it being who He is. Omg you have a pic of a geisha on one of your posts and well I was wondering if I can borrow the picture. Thank You for the links. Looking forward to checking those sites out. Your Friend, Anastasia. Thank you, I am glad you liked. I hope all is well this am.
I hope you are having a good Christmas. Reblogged this on fenixwild15's Blog. Thank you for the re blog. The article came from the Denversub.
Thank you for dropping in. If a dominant is at the top of his game and the relationship is working, the submissive will be inspired to surrender completely, spontaneously, rather than via a conscious decision, collars, contracts etc. Thank you for stopping by, and your comment. I know some who do not like the term NegotiationI myself did not use such a process until I met my current slave and wife. Instead of calling it negotiations lets call it needslaying all your cards out on the table. Lets say you express a need but the submissive says that is a hard limit. You love anal sex but the submissive has expressed that is off limits now and in the future.
We are all differentwe all have different needs, we implement different rules and protocols. Now lets start off by saying the slave is self sufficient makes 40k a year with almost no debt. Looking for a Master for long term and wishes to have. I was asked each time what she was looking for? I explained she wanted to give up complete control even money, needed rules and structure on a daily basis and punished when deemed fit and each one each Dominant said no it was not their cup of tea.
This was 11 well known Dominants. This was someone I had considered but my slave and her could not form that friendship bond to move forward. Where does the line between Dominant and Master begin? I do agree with what you stated. I am a 69 year old man that is considering becoming a full time slave to a much younger 24 to be exact man. While I as the slave want to be controlled even long distance MASTER has never given slave an incentive whether it be negative this will happen if I fail or positive your reward will be.
Any other combination of terms seems to lack the finality of the situation. While on the phone recently he has had me write down my instructions snd even repeat them back. As to the final outcome the slave will be finding out withinthe next days. I do believe our roles will change for the better and we shall look back our beginning in bewilderment. Regarding the continual negotiation of a scene there was only one time I ask him if he would consider having me as his absolute and total slave.
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