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A couple can get so deep in the pit that they forget how to find their way back. The following are tips for regaining your footing in your marriage. Every night, no matter how tough it is, pray together. Prayer is one of the most powerful things you can do for your marriage; God uses it to draw the two of you together with Him. Remember that your spouse is not your enemy. Marriage is tough when both sides are dug in on opposite sides of the battle line. Your spouse is your biggest earthly gift from God.
Resolve to work your differences out together. When necessary, agree to disagree. She might think she looks best in dark clothes, while he thinks otherwise. Learn to let the small things go. Be hard to offend. I once heard Dr. James Dobson say we should keep our eyes wide open before marriage, and half shut afterwards. When both sides have their feelings on their sleeves a little spark can start a raging bonfire.
Alsodo not take seriously all words which are spokenso that you will not hear your servant cursing you. For you also have realized that you likewise have many times cursed others. Ecclesiastes Never call your spouse degrading names, jab with sharp, critical words, or put them down.
Your words have impact, and can hurt and tear down as easily as they can build up and encourage. Focus on loving your spouse. Quit trying to change them. Encourage your spouse. When my wife tells me she appreciates something I did, even if it was small, it makes my day. Work on upgrading the ratio in your relationship. Have fun, often. Go out on a date. Watch a movie. Get away for a night alone. If you have kids, get a babysitter. You should date at least once a month; once a week is best.
When my wife and I went through a period where we became distant, we started meeting for a cheap lunch once a week. It made a huge difference in our marriage. Hug each other at least once a day. Hold hands. Tell your spouse you love them. When your spouse has something to share, let them get it all out before you speak. Make them feel heard so they know you care about them. If your spouse shares a situation where you hurt them, apologize immediately. During my more than 20 years of marriage, there were many times when I knew I was wrong while Michelle and I were arguing; I dug into my foxhole because of pride.
Become compromisers. Practice God-pleasing humility by letting your spouse have their way at times. Do things they like. Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceitbut with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves ; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.
Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus, who, although He existed in the form of God, did not regard equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied Himself, taking the form of a bond-servant, and being made in the likeness of men. Philippians Get your priorities right. God is your first priority and should be the source of your life, not your spouse. Your spouse is never meant to provide all of your emotional and spiritual needs. Each of you should spend time alone with the Lord, every day. Your second priority is your spouse.
Parents, kids, friends, hobbies, or sports never take precedence over your marriage. Many will have work to do in this regard. Men have a tendency to put sports, work, ministry or hobbies over their families. For women Godly marriage advice for marriage success can be other relationships, such as with their parents or children, or work.
Have sex. Satan does everything he can to get you in bed before marriage; he fights to keep you away from it afterwards. Sex bonds a couple together. Do not ban sex from your marriage. This takes time, commitment and planning. If you have kids you may have to schedule times for intimacy.
Both sides may also need to negotiate a reasonable frequency. When you have sex, take your time, and enjoy it! Talk Godly marriage advice for marriage success each other and discuss what you like. Never make a major decision unless both sides are in agreement. If I get invited to participate in a ministry event, I check with Michelle first.
Realize that your differences are blessings. God put us together for a specific purpose. It took me a long time to figure out that our differences are not points of division, but how God fits us together. Humility is the key. The Lord uses us to help each other. We both need God; at times one of us needs the other to gently remind us how God would have us live. There are times when I submit to a direction Michelle thinks we should take, as there are times when she submits to me. Soak your marriage with prayer.
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Keys for a Happy Marriage