Text messaging has ruined dating

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I sigh halfheartedly. I don't have to pick up my phone to know who is texting me half past midnight. It's my boyfriend. For the past few days, we'd been rehashing the same stupid argument. We were in the middle of a big move to New York and I was still mildly irritated that he insisted on moving ahead of me to get things settled with his job, leaving me and a million half-packed boxes behind. Reception wasn't too clear between us, so a phone call wasn't viable.

It was just the two of us trading texts my panicky, long-winded rants and his brief, passive-aggressive "Ks". I couldn't help but feel that if there weren't several state borders separating us, we could talk face to face instead of screen to screen, and we might understand one another a little better. There's something to how I was feeling. A study proved that too much texting back and forth especially to hash out problems can cause a disconnect in even the most committed couples. Researchers from Text messaging has ruined dating Young University asserted that the frequency and content of texts can determine the quality of your relationship.

After getting nearly people all in committed relationships to participate, the researchers found that most couples use texting for "relationship maintenance" and even worse, to argue. And a lot gets lost in translation. So why are we so tempted to frenetically button-mash on our phones instead of dial and call? Or, better yet, work things out in person? And why is this ruining our relationships? YourTango expert, Julie Spiraoffers some relationship advice, saying she has never seen an argument via text have a happy ending. Spira is an online dating expert and founder of CyberDatingExpert.

She says that when you're sending text messages back and forth and don't hear the sound of someone's voice, you can't know how upset they really are. Obvious, right? Don't text about the big things: problems in the bedroom, nagging in-laws, or an imminent breakup because really, that's just the 21st century version of the "post-it" breakup method. But what specifically should you never type and send to your partner? Technology wasn't necessarily a precursor to a doomed relationship.

The BYU researchers also found that the more loving texts both men and women send to each other, the happier they were in their relationships. Really, the point is this: When Text messaging has ruined dating doubt, pick up the phone and talk it out. Once you push the send button, you can't take it back. Spira suggests drafting an but do not send it and checking back on your written thoughts in the morning to see if you might be overreacting to something. So your relationship isn't necessarily doomed when you text one another — but we often use texting in all the wrong ways. A lack of a smiley face or a "K" can be taken out of context.

Spira phrases it perfectly: "It's hard to 'listen' when you're reading. Alexandra Churchill is a writer who covers relationship topics. Find her on Twitter. in. YourTango Experts. Photo: getty. Alexandra Churchill. Subscribe to our newsletter. now for YourTango's trending articlestop expert advice and personal horoscopes delivered straight to your inbox each morning.

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Texting really is ruining personal relationships