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I freaked out. The anxiety of a man needing space. Unfortunately and fortunately, this dizzy time of worry and stress is so important for the future of your relationship with this man. Is your man serious about committing to you?
Hint: no! First let me ask you, are any of these above responses ideal for building a successful, thriving and emotionally intimate relationship with a man? Ask me how I know! And I came out the other side only to feel more chained to my fears, more resentful and less esteemed. I get it. The answer is, if you truly believe in your heart of hearts that this man intends to hurt you, damage you, make you feel abandoned, unloved or small, then fine. You may unintentionally just push him away or hurt him.
If you simply pull away too, just because you want to have more control, then what you get is disengagement. This article on what to do when your boyfriend needs space is not going to focus on responses based in fear. This article will help you actually become a high value woman. As the intelligent D. Shen once said, the least wonderful thing you can do for yourself and for a man, is to build a relationship based on power trips. If your boyfriend actively communicated to you that he wants space, and you respond from a place of fear, resentment, hatred, or even just feeling threatened — you will pay the price.
Instead, you strip value and act small. Before we get into the one perfect thing you can say to a man when he says he needs space, Why guys need space in a relationship may want to bookmark and read this article on understanding men. See how to stay high value when he pulls away….
In other words, he has had life stressors outside of your relationship together and he cannot cope with all of that plus your relationship at once. After all, it would be nicer if he could stay put in the relationship and stay present with you. For now. This is by no means a permanent thing. It could just mean that the unique combination of things that have already happened in your relationship have lead you both to this point.
The best thing you can do is take the high road. And that will make you the happiest in the long run. Therefore there is no heart or depth of connection in the relationship with a woman who is not connected to life. The world can be a dark, scary and suspicious place at times, and if you come from a hurtful, unstable background, then yes — numbness and a lack of trust probably permeate every fabric of your life.
In other words, activating your gradual and progressive surrender to life and to a man — are all necessary for a man to want to dive in and make you his very own, forever. Sometimes a man asks for space because he feels like a woman is taking too much from him without giving back. Remember that as a man and a woman, your relationship timeline is different. Not only that, your inherent biases as a feminine woman and a masculine man are also very different.
These simple factors can influence the natural feeling that men and women have about each other in long-term relationships. Especially when both of their emotional, psychological and biological needs clash. It just means that we should respect this as an important part of the evolution of every relationship. He may just need to feel like himself again. Sometimes, a man may just feel like the woman in his life is taking more value than she is giving back. Thank goodness I learned how to outgrow that! Unfortunately, evolution kind of deed men and women to feel like they are taking too much from each other — at some point.
Simply because of biology. It will sometimes feel like the relationship is too much work to him. Why guys need space in a relationship a man and woman who fall madly in love will at some point feel like their partner is taking too much. You know what?
At best we can only influence a man. And as a vulnerable feminine womanwe can influence him well. Beyond our wildest dreams, in fact. Sometimes, things are just bigger than us! Our task — if we want to be high value, is this. To learn to offer so much value to him and his life, that he naturally becomes eager to be there for you, love you and cherish you for life.
But even then — and make sure you listen to this — even then, sometimes it is just not meant to be. Now, we can go further and add more words to this, but the essence of it is that you are communicating from a resourceful and mature place.
He just needs some space. So, in giving you this one perfect thing to say, it is just a starting point to get you on the high road. Also, your true understanding of the value in giving him space, will make up the rest of it. Connection is the true desire of all of us deep down, and more importantly — connection is what strengthens the relationship, and not having a power play.
This is not about revenge. We only want revenge on people who deliberately want to damage our livelihood or take something valuable away from us. Because if we do this, we are just trying to make a last-ditch effort to exert power over him. By the way, I want to teach you 5 secrets to having your man fall deeply in love with you and beg you to be his one and only. These 5 secrets are inside of my new program.
This all just means that the reason I want you to learn to give lots of value, is not just so you can just catch any man and keep him. The reason I want you to learn to give so much value is because at the end of it all, all of this is really about who you become. I believe the true reward in life is who you become. Even if you and your boyfriend do break up! See, even if your current relationship never works out, at least you can walk away knowing that you took the high road. When you take the high road, you are the one who gets to walk away with esteem for yourself.
You actually add value to yourself. Not to mention that you had to get outside of your own self to do so. Your confidence is everything when it comes to relationships. Let us stop and think. What is really happening when a man tells you he needs space? Is it you being a terrible partner? It is a universal problem. This anxiety and the neediness that you feel when a man pulls away is just how things go in relationships. Women and men too get needy. It is a basic law of how humans work in relationships.
Because of the threat of loss of resources — mainly emotional resources. We want a man to be romantically and emotionally all ours. Why else do we get needy? Because for millions of years, women have been vulnerable enough just by being women. It is okay. We are all living organisms that want to survive, and protecting yourself is a part of the deal. When you are too lazy, or too resistant to life to care about adding value back to a man, that is a problem. It is lonely to be a taker.
Simple neediness because you became scared to lose a man, is a simple problem that can be worked through; and that is what I am here for. Then proceed to find a place where you can be alone, sit down, breathe, and breathe again, and just keep breathing. Breathe in all the uncertainty that you are experiencing. Breathe in all the fear and the heavy sense of loss you desperately resist feeling. Breathe it all in, and if it happens, let yourself cry and process your feelings.
Many women would much rather ensure that they always get the long end of the stick with men, simply because they are female. You are doing one high value, evolved thing: connecting with what HE wants. And respecting where he is at.
Even IF you do not fully understand where he is at, it does not matter. What matters is that what you say, adds value to him. It helps your relationship progress, and it allows you to continue on as a high value woman. When your boyfriend says he wants space, try to remember back to an emotionally difficult time — maybe when you were and you felt abandoned. What is the one thing that would have basically set you free? What is the one thing somebody could have given you that would have been a godsend? It is validation for what you are feeling. It is somebody understanding you, and what you felt, with no strings attached.
But it means that you need to take all those feelings and at least let yourself feel and process them. You should process them before you act out and Why guys need space in a relationship damage the connection you have with a man.
But more than that, sometimes men ask for space because you were never their one and only to begin with. Thank goodness, because now you get to finally process everything enough to move forward in the way that is best for you. The challenge when a man asks for space is how evolution may have wired fear into us. We are wired to fear abandonment. For example; go and screw our best friend. Or put his online dating profile up again and find someone new to chase. And yes, horrible things do happen in this world. Everything is not always going to be okay. However, with regards to men, even if you get hurt, rest assured that the hurt is not bigger than you.
And here… on how to stay high value when he does pull away…. To help you understand whether your current relationship is really worth your time and energy, I wrote an article on the 10 Ultimate s of A Healthy relationship. Also, I hope that you enjoyed this post. I really look forward to reading your thoughts. Do you have any worries, or are you confused about anything? Please share your thoughts below. If you want to be supported by a warm community of high value feminine women, then our Facebook Group.Why guys need space in a relationship
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