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Couples can fall into a polyamorous lifestyle in a few different ways. Some decide they want to search for a third member of their relationship, whereas others simply fall into the polyamorous community and find it works out better for them. A common misconception of polyamory — the word for having multiple romantic partners — is that it's all about people wanting to have their cake and eat it too.
This may be the case for those who go "unicorn hunting," but others in successful polyamorous relationships don't see it that way. As is the case with all sorts of relationships, there are many misconceptions about polyamory. Business Insider spoke to people in polyamorous relationships to find out what it's really like.
Many people get jealous in their relationships, whether they like it or not. It's an ugly, upsetting emotion. So introducing multiple people into your love life might seem like a recipe for disaster. Jealousy for me acts as a warning that I am feeling insecure or stressed Why men need more than one woman my relationship with someone, and when I address whatever is causing that usually with lots of reflective conversation the jealousy goes away.
Dr Elisabeth Sheff, the author of " The Polyamorists Next Door ," has been studying polyamory for over two decades and is also in a "monogamish" relationship with her wife. She told Business Insider that some people genuinely never experience jealousy. However, she has also seen cases where people believe they are unable to feel it, only to come back years later after learning they actually can — it just took the right situation or person to trigger it. Sheff said she travels a lot for work, which is why polyamory works out well for her relationship.
Sometimes she can be away for two months at a time, so she likes her wife to have someone to keep her company while she's away. But that doesn't mean they act on it all the time. Still, since polyamory is about getting a variety of needs met, sex is still an important factor. Sometimes one person may not be able to give you everything you want — but that doesn't mean you want to break up with them. They then met and became friends with a lot of polyamorous people, and since then, they haven't looked back. Talking with each other is key in polyamory.
In fact, because couples have to be so honest with each other about everything, many couples believe it has made them closer. Alex and Claire made it clear to each other that their relationship comes first by default. They are planning for the future, want to have children, and make choices in light of those things. Alex believes that despite this, they are both still very capable of making Why men need more than one woman other partners feel loved. So we were really into each other Alex said this was very sad, but they couldn't find a way of forming a relationship that made them both feel happy and secure.
As for the impact dating other people has on their marriage, Alex said they aren't really concerned. According to Sheff, polyamory can improve couples' relationships with their children — if they have them — because they are already very good at communication. She said children don't usually have more than their two parents. Any others who might be around are adult friends, who are there for support, but they don't often take on disciplinary roles. But certainly an adult who they can rely on and go to for help, support ideas, and maintain a lasting connection with.
She added there are three cases where children might have more than one parent, but it's rare: it occurds if the child is very young when they meet the partner, that partner lives with the child, or the relationship has lasted for many years. As "romance" happens in private, children aren't necessarily ever aware of it. They just know there are lots of people around to play with.
Sheff tends to work with people who are happy in their polyamorous lives, and so admits she is looking through rose-coloured glasses at the situation. In bad polyamorous relationships, things may get complicated and messy. In fact, before meeting her wife, Sheff's husband suggested polyamory to her — he wanted to find a bisexual woman for them to share, but she wouldn't be allowed to sleep with other men.
In the end, Sheff realised she was being manipulated, and that's not how a healthy polyamorous relationship should go down. But when it's done right, Sheff believes it can be an ideal lifestlye for many people. Couples can be more satisfied with their lives overall, and children are unaffected or even benefit. They have more freedom, a large support group, and open communication, and end up more independent and self-sufficient as a result, she said.
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